MAKING A QUIET CHILD INTO A SOCIAL CHILD

one day as the normal rainy day were I do stay awake to listen to the noise of the creak sound of the rain up the roof of my building that sound like a rhythmic music to my ear and keeps me in a state of reminiscing my past memory (memoir), these fortunate day it carried me to the time I was a little girl around eight years old as I can remember how I use to play in the rain with folks and how the heavy down pour of the raindrop on our body like an itch though it meant getting spank by our parents for playing under it cause of cold yet we can't let go, very lively  and interesting we did this in the way we just needed to keep up with the season down my memory drew my thought to my little uche always indoors and quiet hardly gets use to the season or even folks of his age around, always  stays to himself and he is my only child. I don't  bother telling him "I don't want to see you out there stay in this
house till I come back" cause always most of the time he his always indoors hardly goes out can't even tell whether he tries to look outside through the window

even if am around at evening  and try to make him played outside with the kids around he never comes out

I  -           "uche if you are through with your assignment you can come out and played"

 but throughout the day uche never comes out even if I don't add the word 'assignment'

I   -          "uche you can come out and play"

still the same mosquito perching over where it perch and either he is up in  his room or in the parlor watching TV. The house can be all that, neat or whatsoever but that is not what I wanted, I wanted a more lively home a highly playful child you can say am really foolish for saying a highly playful child but sorry to say I needed a lively home and a kid who can socialize with the kids in his environment.

Little About Uche

Uche his currently going to age nine about the time of writing he have a plight for technology and science while I am just a full known market woman. sometimes when I tried talking to him on his technological explore we likely end up this way with I on the dummy side.

I-             I will get you those material so you can make that

uche-    mom the last one you got me was a wrong one

I-             but you said a resistor

uche-    yes a resistor but you got me an insulator

I-             ok no problem we can both go to the market and get it

uche-    I have already gotten it

this made me feel it will be hard to get him since we both grow in different idea he grew up with love for technology and I was only told of business at my level

One of My Trials With Uche

Down the street there were kids playing a certain game on the roadside while I look through the window of my kitchen where I and uche were busy washing the plate  I ask uche about the game the kid were playing outside

I -            "do you know of that game okon and the rest are playing (although I remember long time with                 folks   but it's kind of refurbish now in a new style)

uche -   "no, but that's a kiddies game".

I -            (what I said to myself his uche not a kid I thought he might be joking so I decided to ask again)   "are you serious "

uche -   "yes it's a childish game"  he pours out the words

I -            (took a little breath and tried to take a closer look outside to the kids through the window)" but               Alex over there  is two years ahead of you and he his playing  this game"

uche didn't respond, but I wouldn't let go, especially now still trying to say something I couldn't find the right words to use and the thought of how things have change how at age 8-12 during my time we do roll on the sand and get dirt but now these age are far different I thought this must have caught up with him so I decided to let go.

If uche can't play a game as the bigger boys game when I was growing up then what must he be playing

what must he be up to when he is not a home

does he have any game he look at as his age type

my thought rush down to his school despite the fact he has a good result and a good remark but that didn't made me give up my mind on going to get a concrete information about him.

Steps I Took

·         Getting to know how uche spends his full day

I went to uche school and got some information about uche I learnt uche stays to himself at school and associate less I also told them about my own ordeal with uche which I was advised to try taking him on a trip or vacation

this left me with a true fact that uche hardly flow along at school with peer group and also in the neighborhood always to himself

Uche has a craze for technology but not knowing the true nature of our world he might not have the right fantasies to start with

https://www.theguardian.com/teacher-network/2016/sep/27/through-fantasy-children-face-their-fears-and-become-braver

I never intended after getting my uche and mistakenly put him to the wrong side of the wall  'no' but bringing him out to a social life and he will be able to get useful understanding of the environment and society in which he live in.

I love is crave for what he is doing (technology) but what is doing can only be crave more or dealt with better knowledge, feeling about it, if he knows the feeling of how it looks like around that is by his social life

·         Learn to fit with uche fears

there were things I could try to sit and talk to him but it was too tender for him at is I age I felt like so I decided to follow the rules which say children follows your example

I decided to take uche along for a family dinner at a distance house on my street , we had dinner there and much talk which I never forgot to bring up the topics of our kids and made sure that the kids challenged uche on technological issue were I felt he will be able to respond soon enough they left with uche into their room and show him a lot of things he told me when we were on our way home

I also took uche to an exhibition center with a friends kid on the street also with the family permission to take the kid  after explaining my ordeal with uche

uche response was getting good by the day is communication with me increase with much question

More Steps I Took Towards Developing A Mind Of Uche's Own

Made sure he follows a few of the kid who attended the same church with us for any children programmed in church.

Sometimes whenever I do take uche out with some kid I will tell uche to go home with them while i left  for a working appointment

Days goes on I took the opportunity of two weeks break surpassing the danger of leaving him alone with his cousins who came over for holiday they were of his age apart from ada whom was older than them all fifteen years old probably and the more reason is she is playful and she will be able to take care of the house without giving much headache to uche

after this the kids around the street which family we visited and the ones who had follow us to a social event visited uche and they played and explore on technology

I also increase my attention to the food he eats to boost his consciousness.

after much of this I hardly see uche at home again whenever am back from my working place he sometimes left the house with a note "mom I am at mommy Stanley's house I am already through with my house chore and assignment  and I know when I will be back " telling me the house he is and of course he knows the time is my time to get is body back home

Surprise Word I Got From Uche

while we were busy washing the plate uche said the words "mom you can't believe how big the world is" he added much to his words

but my little uche never knew I knew already know how great the world is and the people who live in it.

uche is now getting along good with the society very soon he will have a good view of how it works